DEAR FUTURE HER…here’s the thing about mistakes.

DFH May

Awake, awake, put on your strength O Zion. Put on your beautiful garment, O Jerusalem, the holy city… – Isaiah 52 : 1 (ESV)

Dear Future Her,

As life goes on, you may make mistakes and you may fall…but if you fall, don’t stay on the ground; get up and keep walking – because you are strong and you have the strength to move on. Do let it all go – because you can, and you should!

I want to let you know that sitting on and lamenting over a mistake never changes anything – it never has; and I promise, it never will. Oh really? Well yes! – but you see, moving on does. Finding the strength in God to move on with your amazing life and believing Him for something more beautiful changes everything!

About a month ago or so, someone was having a conversation with me (not so sure whether to call it a conversation or not ; because I was quiet almost the whole time). He said a few things that I caught and held on to; and one of those things is what I’ll like to share with you now. It’s this: “You shouldn’t sit on your mistake; because when you sit on it, you’ll make the same mistake again”. I think this makes huge sense, and I’ll do well to explain it to you the way I see it. So this is the way I see it: When you sit on your mistake, when you keep trying to undo what’s already been done (like that were even possible), you won’t see too far!…all you’ll keep seeing and will ever see is that mistake, and how terrible a person you are, and how stupid you were to have done whatever it was that you did. Sitting on your mistake and making numerous regrets only puts you in a box, and this limits you from seeing the ‘beautiful’ ahead of you. However, when you decide to get up and move on – you free yourself from being locked up in that box. You release yourself to seeing & having & hoping & loving & laughing again.

Yep. I know. I know. You shouldn’t have done that right? You were not wise. Right? Like, what were you even thinking? I know! But hey, what does that even change, really? How can trying to fix a way too broken glass get it all fixed up? The deed’s been done; learn from it. Move on!

I’ve learnt so much in these past few years about The Love of God; and I know God loves me so much; and that no matter how many  mistakes I’ve made in the past or may ever make in the future – He has forgiven me, and has forgotten about it already! I’ve learnt that God loves me too much to want me to sit on my mistake, He wants me to be wise enough to learn from my mistake, forgive myself, forget about whatever it was I had done, and move on with my incredible, blood-paid life. I’ve learnt that making regrets is just NOT IT! It changes nothing. it is pointless – it’s one of the most pointless things, even…because beating myself up over what I can’t change will only make me feel more terrible. I’ve learnt that no matter what, God’s got me; and I can always find all the strength I need in Him to move on and move on well, ’cause…

“…He will strengthen me, He will help me, He will uphold me with His righteous right hand. – Isaiah 41 : 10 (ESV)

Look, I know letting go and forgetting all of it looks real hard right now. I know all you want to do is rewind time, and make it all okay, and maybe do it better or even say it better; but let’s face it, darling – You can’t! And maybe that’s the bitter truth that hurts you so bad – the fact that you can’t change the past. You have to know that letting go, moving on & holding on to hope may seem difficult now, but…after you’ve decided to do these; you’ll see it was all worth it!

The past is the past and the earlier we learn to let it be what it is and not let it define us – the better! We are beautiful, strong girls called to live the extraordinary life. Will we make mistakes sometimes? Yes, sometimes we may! But can we still get up even after we might have fallen? Yes, we can…and why is that? It’s because we have the strength within us to! It’s because we have a God inside of us Who is full of strength and Life!…

So, it’s yours to choose: to sit & lament & worry & regret OR to stand & move & believe & be happy – it really is your choice; but I’d rather that you stand up and dust the broken pieces off of you, and learn from your mistake, and make peace with whoever you have to make peace with (which includes yourself), and trust God, and believe in His deep, deep love and care for you!

So here’s the thing about mistakes:

* You aren’t your mistake.

* Your mistake does not define you.

* Your mistake should be learnt from, not sat on.

* You can find all the strength you need in God to let go (Heb. 4 : 16).

* As long as you are in Christ, you are free – not free TO sin; but free FROM sin.

* Your mistakes are past, and You are more than forgiven! God does not remember your mistakes anymore, neither will He ever bring them up!(Heb. 8 : 12).

Yeah so, see you in May, Xoxo and bye.

Jaachi.

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Dear Future Her…it’s Okay to Dream.

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Dear Future Her,

Dare to dream, because it’s okay to dream…and if  you dare to dream, then dare to dream the extraordinary.

Some people say dreams are unrealistic, and that wanting the extraordinary is ridiculous. They say “just take life as it comes. Accept whatever. What do you have to take risks for anyway?”. But, I strongly disagree; because, I know it’s okay to want the extraordinary. It’s okay to not be satisfied with your latest accomplishments. It’s okay to not be comfortable with where you are; and it’s okay to say “No, there has to be more than this; and there has to be more to and about me.”

Please, never let anyone talk you out of your God-given dreams, and never give up on your dreams – they are “your dreams”, and not anyone else’s. I believe that God has placed in every girl’s heart a dream, and has given her talents and passions too; not for her to just use them gain some fame; but for her to use them help the world around her. And whenever you’re afraid that your dreams are too big for you; remember that: God is a big God – too big a God to give you small dreams.

And…oh, ya. I dream too. I dream a lot. I see big things about myself, God tells me things; and sometimes, it’s just crazy because I wonder how and when these things will come true. But…God is teaching me even more everyday to listen to Him; and to not doubt Him, but to trust Him… He constantly reminds me that I wasn’t born to be small. I wasn’t made for the ordinary or for the norm – and, I don’t believe you were either. I believe that you, me…”us” were born for something much more.

So, this is it: I dream the incredible. I imagine the extraordinary. I have passions. I have goals. I have hopes. And I have fears too…but, in all my fears I know that I can always trust my God. I don’t know about anybody else; but, I just want to be that girl who lived out her dreams. I just want to be that girl who was exactly everything God created her to be. And when I have a daughter, I’ll tell her this exact  same thing: “Baby, It’s okay to dream. It’s okay to hope. It’s okay to want to fly…and, the fact that you can dream, imagine, or even think the extraordinary should clearly tell you that you were never made for the ordinary in the first place”. I’ll let her know that she can be everything she was made to be; and that she should never think the impossible, but trust  God in all things; because with Him, everything and anything is possible.

Dear Future her, and even present her…dare to dream the extraordinary. Dare to dream under this big-beautiful-blue sky; and even if you’ve stopped dreaming; you can always dream again – no matter how old you are, or no matter how too far away from your dream you think you’ve gone. I really love this quote by C. S. Lewis: “You’re never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream”; and like my pastor said the other Sunday: “Don’t be too old to see your dream or dreams come true. BELIEVE!” 

For surely, you have a wonderful future ahead of you. There is hope for you yet! – Proverbs 28:18

it’s okay to dream. It’s okay to hope. It’s okay to want to fly. It’s okay to imagine the extraordinary. After all, you weren’t made for the ordinary. After all, you weren’t born for the norm.

…and even when it looks like the “extraordinary” isn’t going to happen, even when it looks like your dreams will never come true; It’s more than okay to trust THE ONE. The one who alone gives real dreams – The one who gave you those dreams. The one who can make all dead hopes come alive again. It’s more than okay to trust JESUS. Dare to dream, girl. DARE TO DREAM!!!

  Xoxo,  Jaachi.

GOD DOES NOT CONDEMN YOU BUT… DO YOU CONDEMN “YOU”?

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Romans 8 : 1
There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit.

* When God said in his word that he has forgiven us – He wasn’t talking “half – forgiveness” or “a quarter”. He was talking “Full – forgiveness”. It’s not just about saying “yeah, I know God has forgiven me”, but have you forgiven yourself? Do you still feel disappointed in yourself for something wrong you did sometime ago? Do you still feel depressed because of some wrong stuff you did? Do you feel guilty? Condemned? Are you afraid that God is way too holy for you to talk to?
If your answers are “yes”, then it’s time to renew your mind. It’s time you change the way you think. It’s time you understand that Jesus came to give freedom – total freedom from guilt and condemnation. Trust me, it’s not in his plan for you to stay in guilt or feel condemned. He wants you to step into his peace and freedom.

Hebrews 4 : 16
Let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy, and find grace to help in time of need.

* I’ve seen so many christians today trying to work out their own righteousness. They feel they’ve been too bad for God to call them righteous. They feel they’ve got to do some certain things or act some certain way to become right with God or to make God love them ”again”, and they’re really struggling with fear, trying to make things right by themselves.
Okay, look at this…

Romans 4 : 3 – 5
For what saith the scripture? Abraham believed God, and it was counted unto him for righteousness.
Now to him that WORKETH is the reward NOT reckoned of grace, but of DEBT.
But to him that WORKETH NOT, but BELIEVETH on him that justifieth the ungodly, his FAITH is counted for RIGHTEOUSNESS.

What was Paul saying here? He was saying ”self – righteousness is not God’s kinda righteousness”. He was saying ”you can never buy righteousness by doing some things to please God”. He was saying ”believe, like Abraham did, believe Jesus paid it all on the cross, believe you’re free – forget your past, stop trying to do some work that’s already been finished by Jesus, you can’t do more than he already did”. Abraham wasn’t perfect, he made mistakes ;still God blessed him and called him righteous. David wasn’t perfect, he did so many wrong things; still God called him a man after his own heart. God isn’t looking for some ”Mr. Very berry Perfect”, he’s looking for a ”Mr. Very berry imperfect” that will trust in him.

*You might be saying ”well, I’ve done so wrong, I’m a really terrible person, I don’t deserve forgiveness, infact, I could never be good enough for God”… Well, the truth is that nobody can be good enough for God. Not you. Not me. We’ve all sinned and fallen short of his glory. So, it doesn’t matter what you’ve done, as long as you’re willing to repent.

Hebrews 8 : 12
For I will be merciful to their unrighteousness, and their sins and their iniquity I will remember NO MORE.

Have you told God you’re sorry? Do you mean it?… Well, great because God doesn’t remember your sins anymore. Everytime you try to tell him of how bad you’ve done, I bet you, he’s saying something like this : ”I have no idea what you’re talking about, really I don’t. The only thing I remember about your sin is that they’ve been wiped off by my son’s blood. So get up and get living.”

“BUT SOMEONE ONCE TOLD ME THAT GOD IS MAD AT ME!”
Okay, here’s my story. Sometime ago I did something really wrong but I got over it and believed that God had forgiven me – I totally forgot about it until… I went to a church (haha! funny but true). The sermon that Sunday just brought fresh guilt, fear and condemnation because all the ”preacher” did that day was “preach fear”. After that sermon, I felt so guilty. I couldn’t eat, couldn’t sleep, couldn’t pray, couldn’t worship. I felt like I was so far from God. I felt I could never please him again; But praise God, I talked to some wonderful people about it and they helped me out. They told me it’s Satan’s job to make people feel afraid and guilty (that’s why the Bible calls him “the accuser of the brethren”). I got over it, and today, guilt isn’t something I spend my time on. So, it doesn’t matter “who said” or “who is saying”, If it’s not what God says then it’s not true. That’s why we’ve got to be careful what and who we listen to. Some things may sound and look like ”the truth”, but may not actually BE ”the truth”. Religion could sound so true when preached, but it isn’t the truth ;because when you’re playing religion, you can’t enter into God’s rest.

Hebrews 4 : 10
For he that is entered into God’s rest, he also hath ceased from his own works, as God did from his.

 “IT TAKES YOU TO START THINKING RIGHT TO STOP THINKING WRONG.”
You’ve got to renew your mind, God loves you. If you’ve made a mistake, fine! Learn from it. Don’t just sit there and spend time in guilt. It’s gone. It’s past! – believe it, think that way and live in that consciousness. You’re the righteousness of God in Christ, you’re free.

So, i just thought I should remind you of these two : Peter and Judas…

Peter denied the Lord thrice. Judas betrayed the Lord. Peter felt bad – yes! But repented genuinely and went on with his life. Judas felt bad too, returned the 30 pieces of silver, didn’t stop feeling bad, satan entered him and he hanged himself.
Now see! Both of them felt bad. Peter felt bad, Judas felt bad. It’s okay to feel bad; It could be healthy because, feeling bad sometimes would lead you to repent. Now, it’s something to feel bad, repent and forget about it. It’s another thing to feel bad, keep feeling bad and begin to condemn yourself.
I know and you know that if Judas had repented God would have forgiven him, because there’s no sin God cannot forgive. Judas would have preached The Word in joy; telling people how the One he sold bought him back. Well, he didn’t and we all know how it ended, so that’s that.

Look at Paul, he was terrible, a murderer, but look at how Jesus changed him and look at the beautiful, Christ – unveiling epistles he wrote… God is not a respecter of persons! He has forgiven you and he wants to use you. Now have some faith that you are forgiven and forgive yourself!