DEAR FUTURE HER…here’s the thing about mistakes.


Awake, awake, put on your strength O Zion. Put on your beautiful garment, O Jerusalem, the holy city… – Isaiah 52 : 1 (ESV)

Dear Future Her,

As life goes on, you may make mistakes and you may fall…but if you fall, don’t stay on the ground; get up and keep walking – because you are strong and you have the strength to move on. Do let it all go – because you can, and you should!

I want to let you know that sitting on and lamenting over a mistake never changes anything – it never has; and I promise, it never will. Oh really? Well yes! – but you see, moving on does. Finding the strength in God to move on with your amazing life and believing Him for something more beautiful changes everything!

About a month ago or so, someone was having a conversation with me (not so sure whether to call it a conversation or not ; because I was quiet almost the whole time). He said a few things that I caught and held on to; and one of those things is what I’ll like to share with you now. It’s this: “You shouldn’t sit on your mistake; because when you sit on it, you’ll make the same mistake again”. I think this makes huge sense, and I’ll do well to explain it to you the way I see it. So this is the way I see it: When you sit on your mistake, when you keep trying to undo what’s already been done (like that were even possible), you won’t see too far!…all you’ll keep seeing and will ever see is that mistake, and how terrible a person you are, and how stupid you were to have done whatever it was that you did. Sitting on your mistake and making numerous regrets only puts you in a box, and this limits you from seeing the ‘beautiful’ ahead of you. However, when you decide to get up and move on – you free yourself from being locked up in that box. You release yourself to seeing & having & hoping & loving & laughing again.

Yep. I know. I know. You shouldn’t have done that right? You were not wise. Right? Like, what were you even thinking? I know! But hey, what does that even change, really? How can trying to fix a way too broken glass get it all fixed up? The deed’s been done; learn from it. Move on!

I’ve learnt so much in these past few years about The Love of God; and I know God loves me so much; and that no matter how many mistakes I’ve made in the past or may ever make in the future – He has forgiven me, and has forgotten about it already! I’ve learnt that God loves me too much to want me to sit on my mistake, He wants me to be wise enough to learn from my mistake, forgive myself, forget about whatever it was I had done, and move on with my incredible life. I’ve learnt that making regrets is just NOT IT! It changes nothing. it is pointless – it’s one of the most pointless things, even…because beating myself up over what I can’t change will only make me feel more terrible. I’ve learnt that no matter what, God’s got me; and I can always find all the strength I need in Him to move on and move on well, ’cause…
“…He will strengthen me, He will help me, He will uphold me with His righteous right hand. – Isaiah 41 : 10 (ESV)

Look, I know letting go and forgetting all of it looks real hard right now. I know all you want to do is rewind time, and make it all okay, and maybe do it better or even say it better; but let’s face it, darling – You can’t! And maybe that’s the bitter truth that hurts you so bad – the fact that you can’t change the past. You have to know that letting go, moving on & holding on to hope may seem difficult now, but…after you’ve decided to do these; you’ll see it was all worth it!

The past is the past and the earlier we learn to let it be what it is and not let it define us – the better! We are beautiful, strong girls called to live the extraordinary life. Will we make mistakes sometimes? Yes, sometimes we may! But can we still get up even after we might have fallen? Yes, we can…and why is that? It’s because we have the strength within us to! It’s because we have a God inside of us Who is full of strength and Life!…

So here’s the thing about mistakes:

* You aren’t your mistake.

* Your mistake does not define you.

* Your mistake should be learnt from, not sat on.

* You can find all the strength you need in God to let go (Heb. 4 : 16).

* As long as you are in Christ, you are free – not free TO sin; but free FROM sin.

* Your mistakes are past, and You are more than forgiven! God does not remember your mistakes anymore, neither will He ever bring them up!(Heb. 8 : 12).




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